Low mood, brain fog, hot flushes, insomnia: these are just some of the symptoms women experience when going through the menopause.
And, although half of the population experiences it, less than 15% receive effective treatment for their symptoms, according to research.
From HRT to CBT, there are various methods to ease the often debilitating ailments caused by the menopause, which can start as early as your 30s.
But there’s one treatment that stands apart from the others: masturbating.
A recent survey found that 1 in 10 women are using self-love as their primary tool for managing ailments brought on by the menopause – but few rarely talk about it.
The study found that both sex and masturbation were rated among the most effective methods for symptom relief, with many women reporting significant benefits from incorporating self-pleasure into their wellness routines.
And, the science agrees. Sarah Mulindwa, a sexual health nurse, told Metro.co.uk: ‘Masturbation can be a surprisingly effective way to alleviate some of the physical and emotional symptoms of menopause.
‘The release of endorphins during an orgasm can improve sleep quality, reduce stress and anxiety, and help women maintain or boost their libido. By enhancing pelvic floor strength, it can also improve bladder control, addressing another concern for many during menopause.’
But, as often is the case with female pleasure, masturbation as a tool to soothe menopause symptoms isn’t often talked about.
Things to consider before trying masturbation as a tool
According to Sarah, for those considering using masturbation as a way to relieve menopausal symptoms, a few factors should be kept in mind to ensure a positive experience.
By approaching masturbation mindfully, it can become an effective tool for relieving menopausal symptoms, promoting relaxation, and enhancing overall sexual wellbeing.
- Find a comfortable and private space is essential. Feeling safe and secure can enhance the experience, allowing for a more stress-relieving session.
- Since menopause often brings vaginal dryness, use a water-based lubricant can help reduce friction and increase comfort.
- It’s crucial to listen to your body – everyone responds differently to sexual stimulation, so if any discomfort or irritation occurs, consider exploring different techniques, positions, or tools.
- Good hygiene is also important. Washing hands and any toys before and after use can help prevent infections, especially if you have sensitive skin.
- For some, there may be emotional barriers or discomfort associated with masturbation, particularly if it’s a topic surrounded by stigma or shame. Approach it with a sense of self-compassion and
without pressure. - Those with specific medical conditions, such as pelvic floor disorders or
genital prolapse, may benefit from consulting a healthcare provider for guidance on safe and comfortable practices. - If you’re in a relationship, open communication with your partner
about masturbation can foster mutual understanding and prevent feelings of insecurity or confusion. - Take the time to explore what feels pleasurable. This might involve using your hands, experimenting with different types of touch, or incorporating sex toys.
- While masturbation is generally safe, it’s important to practice moderation to avoid irritation or soreness.
The survey by Womanizer, part of the LoveHoney group, found that while 86.8% of women experience menopausal symptoms, only only 44% of women have discussed it with their doctors. And only a third of doctors have talked about sex in regards to the menopause, and just 5% have mentioned masturbation as a tool.
Sarah thinks this is due to the masturbation still being seen as taboo.
She says: ‘Despite the potential benefits of masturbation for menopausal women, trans and non-binary people, it remains a largely neglected subject among healthcare providers.
‘Cultural and societal stigmas play a significant role; masturbation has long been surrounded by taboos and is often viewed as shameful or inappropriate, especially for older women.
‘Society frequently priorities the sexuality of younger women or men, leaving the sexual health of menopausal women overlooked. This bias can influence healthcare providers, who may feel uncomfortable or even embarrassed discussing masturbation with their patients.’
Sarah adds that some medics may also be reluctant to suggest more holistic approaches to sexual health. ‘When combined with the reluctance of patients to bring up the topic, this creates a cycle of silence where neither party feels comfortable discussing masturbation openly,’ she says.
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