Welcome to How I Do It, the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger.
This week we hear from Jacqueline Tait, 40, who lives with neuroendocrine cancer, a rare form of the disease which causes tumours to develop in different organs. The cancer has caused tumours in Jacqueline’s stomach lining, which causes pain and acid reflux.
The mum-of-three, from Wakefield, was working as a cleaner when she was diagnosed in 2016, but struggled to control her symptoms and was forced to take time off work. Eventually, she quit, and instead signed up to a website for sex workers, beginning her career as a cam model.
She says: ‘I don’t feel like I was forced into sex work because of my financial situation.
‘I had actually considered camming in my early 20s but had no idea how to get started. I also previously worked as a stripper in a club and loved it. I realised I could make big money from people staring at my boobs – they can get me anything I want.’
Jacqueline’s husband is now also a cam model. They have three children together, and the eldest two know what their parents do for a living.
She believes her diagnosis has made her marriage stronger. She says: ‘It really makes you appreciate who you have in your life, and now I try to make everyday count, ensuring the people around me know how much I love them.’
There is no cure for her cancer, but it’s slow growing, and medications help to control her symptoms.
And, Jacqueline and her husband still enjoy a spicy sex life.
‘I’m very open-minded and I’ll try anything twice! I particularly enjoy passionate lovemaking, being kissed, caressed and held,’ she says.
‘‘We try to have sex a couple of times a week just for us, but the temptation is always there to record it.
‘The thing with camming and content creation is that you never switch off; you’re always thinking, “This could make me money, I should be recording this!”’
So, without further ado, here’s how she got on this week…
The following sex diary is, as you might imagine, not safe for work.
Monday
I wake up at 8am for a full day of camming. I do my make-up, have a quick coffee, and log onto AdultWork.com for 9am. Calls start coming in thick and fast and by 10:30am I’ve reached my daily target of 200 credits.
Credits are purchased by users to spend on the website through phone calls, webcam sessions or by purchasing content. No call is ever the same – one guy might just want to chat about his day, and the next could ask to see me use toys or want to watch me and my husband having sex.
Next, I get on with some paperwork and spend the rest of my working day going over receipts with my accountant.
At around 3am I get another influx of calls which means I almost double my daily target. My requests remain steady for the rest of the day and in between calls I watch films with my husband.
I finally log off at around 9pm having earned 600 credits, which works out to around £420.
Tuesday
I had a bad night last night with my stomach and barely slept, so today I don’t get up until 10am. I have a flare up around once a month and that can last from a few hours to a few days.
By the time I log on its almost lunchtime, however within the first 10 minutes a regular joins me.
We chat for around half an hour while he’s sending me tips to buzz my a sex toy which I keep inside of me – he loves watching my pleasure rise and it’s hugely satisfying for me, too.
With this one call alone, I make more than 300 credits. I’m still not feeling great, so I decide to log off and spend the rest of my day cuddled up on the sofa with my dogs.
Wednesday
I’m feeling much better this morning and I’m on cam by 8am. Since my cancer diagnosis, this has been my sole income, so I make sure I give it my all and stay consistent – that’s the key to success.
I take my dogs for a walk and then log back on to take some calls. The day is quite quiet, but my husband reassures me that, because it’s the middle of the day, men are often worried about their wives walking in on them.
Some guys hide away in the bathroom while their wives are downstairs, although some like the risk and will even log on while sat in the same room as their wives. I’ve now built up a lot of regulars and know who to expect at certain times.
To round off my evening, I cuddle up with my husband and we have a few drinks whilst watching a film. Before bed my husband jumps in the shower.
I decide to surprise him and join him in the bathroom, giving him oral while he showers. It’s not often we get time for fun with the number of hours I spend on cam, so I don’t want to miss the opportunity. I decide to set up my phone and record the whole thing for my profile.
Thursday
Today’s a great day. I have a steady run of calls and get halfway to my daily target by just 11am. I take a few hours off and decide to visit my mum and sister. We speak very openly about my week on cam and laugh about some of the strange things men have asked me to do.
For example, this week I had a new guy call me. He wanted to go ‘cam to cam’ and show me pictures of his wife. She was stunning and he asked me if I wanted to masturbate while looking at her. I expected him to want to watch but he said, “I will leave the room and let you enjoy her”. He returned ten minutes later, asked if I had orgasmed, then left.
Meanwhile, another customer said he had a surprise for me. I opened his cam, and he was dressed in full lingerie, heavy makeup, and a blonde wig. He told me to sit back and let him put on a show… he performed a strip tease and left. My mum even jokes about me setting her up – we’re a very open family!
I get back on cam at about 4pm and manage to bring in another 100 credits by 7pm. My stomach starts playing up again, which is sadly a consequence of my tumours, so I log off and rest.
That’s one of the most significant perks that comes with working as a cam model; this job has complete flexibility, and I am in control of both when I work and for how long. As I continue to fight my diagnosis, that’s invaluable.
I love the fact I can choose when I work and that, if I need to take some time off, I can. Plus, my husband gave up his job shortly after I started camming and he now joins me on webcam and as a content creator, so we both have flexibility.
He was working as a delivery driver for a logistics company. The hours were long, and the pay was rubbish. He gave up work as I was earning enough to look after as both, and we soon decided to start a couple’s account too because we knew we would enjoy it.
Friday
My son picks me up and takes me out for breakfast. My eldest is also home from university for a few days and she meets us there. It’s lovely to have family time and catch up, although my daughter’s uni stories are a little tamer than mine.
Both are very supportive of my work, they were shocked at first and my daughter’s friends jokingly asked for a link, but now everyone appreciates what I do. My son then drops me back home and at lunchtime I log on to cam.
I spend an hour taking a few photos in new outfits and brainstorm video ideas. For example, I am planning to film a jerk-off instruction video. The footage of me and my husband from the other day is selling well, but I know I need to keep updating my content regularly.
Saturday
After logging onto cam at 9am I check in on the women in the WhatsApp support group I run. I spend a lot of time helping other cam models, it’s my passion and I want to help others change their lives for the better too.
I then take my youngest daughter into town for some lunch and clothes shopping. I spot some beautiful lingerie and wonder if I can pop it in my basket without my daughter noticing, but I decide to play it safe instead.
I’ll go back when I’m alone. I don’t want her asking any awkward questions, she’s too young and the only one of my children who doesn’t know what I do – the others are all wonderfully supportive.
I get back on cam at 6pm and spend over two hours on one call. I then log off to spend time with my husband.
Sunday
I spend a few hours on cam and I’m feeling pretty horny, so I decide to wake my husband up nicely. We have sex and this time it’s not filmed – I don’t want to worry about getting the right angles and it’s so worth it.
We need to do this more often. Sex is hard when you work in this industry because there’s always a voice in your head saying, ‘this would make for a great video’, but it’s important that you take time off and fully connect with your partner.
I love the more passionate side of sex with my husband, including lots of foreplay. I really like being tied up using our restraints, letting him tease me until I can’t take it anymore.
Sunday is our big clean day, so we then spend the afternoon freshening up the house and going on a long walk with the dogs. I spend time on cam when we get home and end my week with a film and takeaway.
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